Dating
A couple Sundays ago the Bishopric played a CES talk by Pres. Uchtdorf about dating. Discouraging 'all-day' dates etc. I kind of have to chuckle about that.
Youth (ages 16 to married) tend to have a hard time realizing what they're really doing when they're dating. My opinion and I'm sticking to it.
Based on my emotions as a youth, I believe the desire is to spend as many seconds with your date (person of interest) as is possible; hence the 'all-day' date syndrome.
After 37 years of marriage, yes, we still date; I have found an interesting situation about our dating habits.
We 'dated' going to the Temple one night a week and out to dinner if we could afford it for a lot of the years our children were growing up. We still try to squeak that in.
The youngest has been an adult for a good eight years and with all the hopes of being able to go on fun dates together I still find my plans shifted.
I may be in the mood to go to a movie, but if the Stake or some Auxiliary has planned an activity which requires the Media Specialist to be there to set up and record the event, I 'get' to have my date with my spouse when I pick him up at 10 p.m., eat a couple tacos, split a slice of cheesecake and visit for a few minutes before it's time for bed.
Ya know what? It's all good. I don't HAVE to have a big date, an all-day date, or a you and me only date. I can share him with the ward and stake and be fine. I love being with him and believe you me, when the love is that great spending time apart is not well liked.
Our relationship, for my part at least, is one that when he does retire, I won't feel like he's under foot at all. I like being around him. Yes, even all the time.
I'm just as content if we're working on independent projects and only enjoying knowing we're in relatively close proximity.
All day dates. Harrumph. All eternity mates.
Youth (ages 16 to married) tend to have a hard time realizing what they're really doing when they're dating. My opinion and I'm sticking to it.
Based on my emotions as a youth, I believe the desire is to spend as many seconds with your date (person of interest) as is possible; hence the 'all-day' date syndrome.
After 37 years of marriage, yes, we still date; I have found an interesting situation about our dating habits.
We 'dated' going to the Temple one night a week and out to dinner if we could afford it for a lot of the years our children were growing up. We still try to squeak that in.
The youngest has been an adult for a good eight years and with all the hopes of being able to go on fun dates together I still find my plans shifted.
I may be in the mood to go to a movie, but if the Stake or some Auxiliary has planned an activity which requires the Media Specialist to be there to set up and record the event, I 'get' to have my date with my spouse when I pick him up at 10 p.m., eat a couple tacos, split a slice of cheesecake and visit for a few minutes before it's time for bed.
Ya know what? It's all good. I don't HAVE to have a big date, an all-day date, or a you and me only date. I can share him with the ward and stake and be fine. I love being with him and believe you me, when the love is that great spending time apart is not well liked.
Our relationship, for my part at least, is one that when he does retire, I won't feel like he's under foot at all. I like being around him. Yes, even all the time.
I'm just as content if we're working on independent projects and only enjoying knowing we're in relatively close proximity.
All day dates. Harrumph. All eternity mates.
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