Well I Don't Feel Like...
When I was between 12 and 14 years I was taught a concept that I know to be true. I was taught that if you really, really loved someone, that you wanted to be with them so much that you would take a genuine interest in what they were interested in. A kind of molding to one another.
I've written before about the money thing-his money, her money-but when you're married it really should be 'our' money (the two shall be one flesh).
This is kind of the same theme or idea. Just a slight tangent. Of course with all relationships there are pros and cons as to how far you can take either of these ideas, but if both parties are more emotionally/mentally/socially balanced than not, you can create a forever relationship by abiding by these concepts.
So he likes one style movie and you can't stand it. Employing the theory of molding my will and interests to yours, you would then attend the movie anyway and try to find something of value in it (closing eyes and ears to parts you really don't like) and he likewise would come see the movies you're most interested in-because it's your interest and you are his interest. Of course, the other side of this is, he could as easily give up something that is offensive to you (because you find it offensive to the presence of the Holy Ghost) and still the 'blend' principle applies.
If guys run off with the guys more than they do with their mate/companion and if girls run off with the girls more than they do with their mate/companion, then are you really working at 'becoming one flesh'?
Statistically men die before women-leaving many widows alone. Whether a widow or a widower, you still have to have friends and friendships. I believe it is usually best to keep looking for and making friends through life so that you won't be lonely when your mate/companion leaves this mortal existence. Siblings can be great friends, IF you've put forth the effort all along to keep those ties that bind alive and well. They aren't 'binding' ties, they're umbilical chords that will sustain you in this mortal existence. Some 'binding' ties are through sibling in-laws. Some are through lifetime friends. I think you get the picture.
Bottom line thought is, focus on building your primary relationship-that with your mate/companion/spouse. Then enhance your secondary relationships-extended family and friendships. Always remain aware of and apply proper nourishment to your primary, and then your secondary relationships.
I've written before about the money thing-his money, her money-but when you're married it really should be 'our' money (the two shall be one flesh).
This is kind of the same theme or idea. Just a slight tangent. Of course with all relationships there are pros and cons as to how far you can take either of these ideas, but if both parties are more emotionally/mentally/socially balanced than not, you can create a forever relationship by abiding by these concepts.
So he likes one style movie and you can't stand it. Employing the theory of molding my will and interests to yours, you would then attend the movie anyway and try to find something of value in it (closing eyes and ears to parts you really don't like) and he likewise would come see the movies you're most interested in-because it's your interest and you are his interest. Of course, the other side of this is, he could as easily give up something that is offensive to you (because you find it offensive to the presence of the Holy Ghost) and still the 'blend' principle applies.
If guys run off with the guys more than they do with their mate/companion and if girls run off with the girls more than they do with their mate/companion, then are you really working at 'becoming one flesh'?
Statistically men die before women-leaving many widows alone. Whether a widow or a widower, you still have to have friends and friendships. I believe it is usually best to keep looking for and making friends through life so that you won't be lonely when your mate/companion leaves this mortal existence. Siblings can be great friends, IF you've put forth the effort all along to keep those ties that bind alive and well. They aren't 'binding' ties, they're umbilical chords that will sustain you in this mortal existence. Some 'binding' ties are through sibling in-laws. Some are through lifetime friends. I think you get the picture.
Bottom line thought is, focus on building your primary relationship-that with your mate/companion/spouse. Then enhance your secondary relationships-extended family and friendships. Always remain aware of and apply proper nourishment to your primary, and then your secondary relationships.
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